We’re busy people with jam-packed schedules so when find time for a first date, we definitely want to make the most of it! To that end, we sometimes put pressure on ourselves to come up with the perfect questions—hoping to quickly ascertain whether or not we’re a match and if we should schedule a second date.
But actually, the most important first date questions are the ones you ask yourself! Read on to find out why!
What Are The Non-verbals Telling Me?
On first dates, it’s natural to focus on our conversation; we want to bring up interesting questions and formulate clever, concise responses. But don’t forget another type of communication at work—the nonverbal! Psychologists agree that a great deal of information is conveyed nonverbally, through such things as posture, eye contact, and tone of voice. As you’re conversing, take note of your date’s body language. Does he have a relaxed, open posture? Is her smile warm and genuine? Does he make comfortable, appropriate eye contact?
And don’t forget to consider your body language as well! Are your arms folded in a protective fashion? Do you struggle to look into his eyes? Are you leaning forward inviting her into your space or pulling away—perhaps without even realizing it? Often your body will let you know if you’re into someone even before your mind has figured it out!
How Does My Date Treat Others?